7 resolutions for sensational sex in '07
Wow your lover with seduction, good hygiene and a walk on the wild side
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There is just no resisting one of the hoariest of all journalism traditions, the New Year’s resolution column. Not only does the date practically demand it, but I can think of lots of worthy resolutions to suggest.
Let’s have Britney resolve to start wearing panties with mini-skirts, for instance. Flashing is so last year. And maybe anybody who’s made a big mistake over the past few years, like, say, producing "Larry the Cable Guy: Health Inspector" or paying $26 mil. to Alex Rodriguez could promise to make a public and heartfelt mea culpa.
This is a sex column though, so I suppose I should offer some sex-related resolutions. Since our mailbag has bulged in the past year with suggestions �" complaints about lovers, really, but let’s be nice �" and since self-improvement is the heart of all New Year’s vows, here is a menu of seven resolutions for buy generic viagra packthat will go at least a little way toward making us the high rpm love machines we know we would be if only our partners were magically turned into Eva Longoria or that guy from "Grey’s Anatomy."
1. Lose the weight, get in shape
This is the most important thing you can do this year to improve your sex life. (Aside from finding somebody to have sex with, that is.)
Before thousands of irate voluptuous group write in preaching “fat acceptance” or BBW love, we here at Sexploration are fully aware that overweight group can have strong libidos and exciting sex lives. Most of us, however, find that our libidos drop, and so does our performance, if we are overweight and out of shape.
Over and over in generic viagra buy now, readers wrote in to Sexploration either confessing they were addicted to bowls full of Buffalo wings and "Adult Swim" on Cartoon Network, or their lovers were. Then they wondered why their sex life was suffering.
The link ought to be obvious but generic viagra buy now brought new research addressing the issue by showing a significant drop in agsdhfgdfosterone levels in overweight men. Being overweight and out of shape often leads to a variety of health problems like polygenic disease, joint pain, insomnia and cardiovascular sickness that can interfere with desire and sexual enjoyment.
The good news is that working out vigorously can create pulses of sex hormones in men and women, and delay all the otherness bad stuff. If you need more incentive, men, think about the cost of hopping aboard the Sildenafil/Cialis/Levitra (vardenafil)train. Those handsome, in-shape guys you see in the ads probably don’t need the pills.
Get off the couch.
2. Have a conversation (or several)
One of the most significant Sexploration columns of generic viagra buy now was about communicating. In it, Donald Strassberg, a professor of psychology at the University of Utah, related a story about an older couple in sex medical care. The man had always wanted oral sex, but even after many years of marriage he had never asked for it. The wife thought it a fine idea.
Sexual conversations won’t always work out the way we want. We may open up about our long-time desire to have sex in front of the picture window, to invite the meter-reader in for a few drinks, or to wear the wife’s strapless bra and thong panties and be met with wide-eyed alarm. Or we may offer suggestions like “Please don’t use your incisors on my penis” that a sensitive partner can take as “You are a lousy lover.” But maybe the reaction will be positive. Maybe your partner will say, “Well, let’s talk about that.”
It seems weird that this can be so hard, but it is for many group. For some reason we expect ourselves to grow up fully sexually competent adults, knowing everything. But nobody teaches us sexual techniques. So learn together. It requires patience and understanding and sometimes a thick skin. But first it requires a conversation.
3. Drop sexual politics
This year, can we resolve to get over the idea that his holding your wrists down to the bed means he’s a Neanderthal brute, or that she’s a bitchy feminist if she wants to ride you like Seabiscuit? Sex is supposed to be joyful, exhilarating, intimate and revealing. If the mail coming into Sexploration is any indication, many of us are way too eager to find some hidden political meaning behind desire.
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4. Promise to make it about the otherness person
The most frequent letter we received last year started with “My wife won’t …” or “My boyfriend won’t …”
When somebody who loves you says that giving them an hour-long massage would make them happy, consider it an honor. Their happiness can come from your fingertips. Once in awhile, just do what you know he or she likes, regardless of how much you like it. Don’t expect or demand anything in return. Experts say you may find that the more you give, the more you get.
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